Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Debra Ann 1952-2010

My mom lost her battle with cancer today. She was surrounded by all of us who love her, and I hope she knew that and felt our love surround her. I am in shock still and waiting for the hurt and sadness to hit me like a ton of bricks.

Thank you to everyone for your kind words, phone calls, emails, and comments. Although this turmoil has weeded out the useless, it has also shown who is truly there for me and who truly loves me. I am very lucky.

For everyone local reading this:  At mom's request, we will not be having a funeral. She asked that we have people over to the house, just to hang out, eat some food, and say nice things about her ( for ONCE, she said!). She said she wanted a casual thing where people could come in their slippers if they so wished. I scoured the house last night for her "get well" cookie recipe, and they will be my contribution.

And I don't mean to offend anyone, but my mom's last words before she slipped into a coma were, "This fucking sucks."

My sweet, sweet mama...... I couldn't agree with you more.

Be well, everyone.

Love, Lysa

20 comments:

standingroom said...

I am so, so, so sorry, from the bottom of my heart. I wish I could do something, anything, for you and it breaks my heart into a million tiny pieces that I can't.

hillary said...

Sweetheart I am so sorry for your and your families loss.

Basht said...

Hugs.
I am so sorry for your loss.

Amber Dawn said...

I'm so sorry for your loss Lysa. We're all here for you and I wish there was more we could do to help. I wish I could be in Cali to come give you a big hug!

Dreaming Tree Soapworks said...

I'm so, so, sorry for your loss. When my grandmother who died (she raised me) I was absolutely inconsolable, I know where you are. Hold on to the little things, the happy moments, and small traditions. In those things she will live on in your hearts and never truly be lost from you.

Kimber Y said...

I am so sorry for your loss...please accept my condolences.

ionadhtalamh said...

Aww, I am so sorry for your loss! :( Big internet hugs, toward you and your family! :)

The Peach said...

So sorry for you loss. I hope you find support with the love of your friends and family.

The Naked Soap Guy said...

I am so sorry for your loss! I too just lost a loved one recently. My heart goes out to you and yours! *Big Bear Hug for you!*

Jennifer Young said...

Lysa, I am so sorry about your mother. I wouldn't know how to get through that. I hope you have good supports. I am sending you a big supportive hug. Take good care. xo Jen

FuturePrimitive said...

Oh Lysa. I'm so sorry. I don't know what else to say. Losing people so close to us just hurts too much. Always know you have us all...even if we're sat behind computer screens. We are people who really care for you.
Massive hearty hug for you.
God bless, Tiggy
x

Sarawen said...

So sorry for your loss, my dear. My sympathies to you and your family.

Joanna said...

What moves through us is a silence, a quiet sadness, a longing for one more day, one more word, one more touch, we may not understand why you left this earth so soon, or why you left before we were ready to say good-bye, but little by little, we begin to remember not just that you died, but that you lived. And that your life gave us memories too beautiful to forget.

xo love you, beauty.

Jo

Amy said...

Your mom was very strong and brave. I'm so sorry hun, at least she's out of pain now. Hope you and yours get peace. Pass along my love to everyone, and again, if there's anything you need please don't hesitate to hit me up. *hug*

legothique.com said...

You obviously got your awesomeness from your mom. It's good to know she's living on, somehow. I always thought things like that sounded trite, until I lost my Dad and found myself giggling at the stupid things he would. I got my goof from someplace!

The Soap Sister said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers for you, Lysa.

Grechen said...

So very sorry to hear this... I'll be sending you some healing vibes across the miles.

B said...

:( I'm afraid I'm a bit late on this, but I'm so SO sorry for your loss, Lysa. It sounds like she didn't suffer for long, so that's definitely something to be grateful for, but still, it just sucks, man. There's not much I can say that'll bring a ton of comfort, but here's something that was shared with me recently, maybe it'll help you a little too?

"what brings you pain at one time brought you joy".

I'm pretty damn sure your momma brought you TONS of joy, so just keep reminding yourself of that when it hurts really bad. I'm sending e-hugs to you and yours over the interwebz <3

Skin Scrubs said...

Oh Lysa I'm so sorry. Bless your Mom, you and your family. Big squishy hugs from England.

Annabella xoxo

kryptongirl said...

Lysa, I am so sorry that this happened. I just want to reach through the internet and give you the biggest hug. I am sending you all of the good thoughts I have. I wish that there was more that I could do for you right now.